Why is it that some parents take care of their children better than others?
Sometimes, it seems like some parents do the things that are convenience for them. Like, some kids their parents provide them with a ride where ever they need to go i.e mall, sports practice, friend’s house, volunteer center, bookstore, movies–but then, some others tell the kid to wait until they can drive or something like that, not being very encouraging or supporting at all and not understanding that kids have needs too. In a way it is like punishing the child when the child hasn’t done anything wrong, and the child may be the kindest and most responsible child in the world. It’s like they are not important enough, because I believe where there is a will there is a way.
Everybody is parented, raised and raises their kids a different way. Every person is different. What one person sees as stupid or crazy, another person may see as fun or right. When you become a parent, you take on the resposibility to not only care for yourself, but for another person. Sometimes stress, schedules, work, house chores, own personal time etc take away time from allowing a parent to do everything their childs wants to. It doesn’t make you a bad parent, nor does doing everything your child asks makes you a good one. It’s important though to support and encourage your child to strive to do their best aways. When you grow up and become a parent yourself, you’ll understand better.
February 24th, 2010 at 3:02 pm
I would say it has to do with their parenting as children. We learn what we are taught.
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February 24th, 2010 at 3:16 pm
Its easy to assume that question.
I have known many parents and they all have their forte and weak spots.
Their are NO perfect parents. Even if they think they are.
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February 24th, 2010 at 3:49 pm
A lot of this has to do with the parents parents like how they were raised and what they were taught
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February 24th, 2010 at 4:33 pm
It is like a child asking why their parents are different us. Your parents are who they are so please accept them. I am sure they mean good.
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February 24th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
I don’t think insisting that the kid who wants a ride someplace wait is not taking as good a care as the parent who drops everything to drive the kid wherever ‘it’ wants to go.
It’s teaching a lesson we all have to learn, that we’re rarely the most important thing in our worlds. Sometimes waiting for the cake to come out of the oven is more important than getting your child to a friend’s house right this minute.
Those parents are not saying the child is not important, but that priorities shuffle all day, every day, everywhere. If that child were injured and needed to go to the hospital, the cake would be allowed to char black, no questions asked.
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February 24th, 2010 at 4:55 pm
I believe each parent takes care of their child to the best of his/her ability ..Some are able to do as much as their finances or circumstances allow them..
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February 24th, 2010 at 5:33 pm
Taking your child around to various things doesn’t make you a better parent. I know a lot of piece-of-sh** kids who were given rides to all sorts of places and they grew up to be uncaring, spoiled adults.
Hey, I grew up in a family with 6 kids. Mom didn’t have the time to take me anywhere. I was lucky to be allowed to walk to the library (4 miles away). My Mom did bring us to the movies, but that was only about every 3 months (couldn’t afford it). So, enjoy what you get to do. The fact that you aren’t getting rides everywhere is frustrating when your friends do, but that’s just the way life is. Everybody gets handed a different plate. Those who get handed the china seldom come out as the best people (Paris Hilton, are you listening?).
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February 24th, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Are you saying they are bad parents because they won’t drive their daughter to the mall? That’s ridiculous. With gas prices as high as they are, maybe they need to conserve gas for going someplace important…like to work. Maybe it’s the parents only day off from work and they’d like to rest and watch some t.v. instead of spending all day in a hot car driving ungrateful teenagers all over town.
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February 24th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
Some parents honestly don’t care about their children as much as they like. Other parents are extremely busy with work and other things.
On the other end of the spectrum, you can’t give a child everything it wants because you will end up spoiling the child. Some things a child will just have to do without. I personally don’t care for the soccer mom type, but this is becoming more and more mainstream without showing any sign of fading.
Some parents just simply feel that their children are an inconvenience and don’t wish to care for them. A harsh reality of life, but tis true.
My honest opinion is that a child should have to make choices in life about where he or she wants to go and what they really want to do. That way they are a little more selective, rather than just assuming that I will answer to their every whim.
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February 24th, 2010 at 7:08 pm
Everybody is parented, raised and raises their kids a different way. Every person is different. What one person sees as stupid or crazy, another person may see as fun or right. When you become a parent, you take on the resposibility to not only care for yourself, but for another person. Sometimes stress, schedules, work, house chores, own personal time etc take away time from allowing a parent to do everything their childs wants to. It doesn’t make you a bad parent, nor does doing everything your child asks makes you a good one. It’s important though to support and encourage your child to strive to do their best aways. When you grow up and become a parent yourself, you’ll understand better.
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February 24th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
If the child is old enough to be "Dropped off" at the mall, friends house, book store, movies, sports practice then the child is old enough to ride his/her bike, walk, hitch a ride with friends. There are times parents are legitimately too busy. Respect this and don’t whine that you are being mistreated. Don’t kids know that parents have needs too?
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February 24th, 2010 at 8:06 pm
Just people’s human nature really.
However, what you deem to be a good parenting style, may not be.
For example, I have a problem with your statement about parents driving their children everywhere and some not.
I agree parents should drive their kids to important school events and such. However, if the parent tells the kid to wait, "why is that always bad" My parents worked. I often had to wait outside school for them the pick me up. Sometimes an hour after my sports practice ended. This did not make my parents bad parents. They had to work, they were providing financial support for me. So, I had to wait.
Secondly, I think it’s a little crazy that some of these mothers are the equivalent to taxi drivers. If the kids wants to go to the mall, they can wait. My mother use to say that if I wanted a ride to the mall (this is not school events and such) or to the movies; I would have to wait. She was the adult and she had errands to do before I got to go out. She was the adult. She worked all day to provide me with financial support. I owe it to wait to go to the mall. What’s so important at the mall that a parent has to stop what they’re doing, so their kid can walk around the mall, waste money and drink sugary Starbucks coffees?
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February 24th, 2010 at 8:53 pm
Some parents want to give their kids what they didn’t have, while others feel they just need to give their children what they need and not have time to hear what their kids want. It depends on how the parents were raised and their background.
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February 24th, 2010 at 9:14 pm
So it’s my job to be a taxi service, enslaved by my children’s constant and ever-pressing demand to be taken somewhere to be entertained?
Bottom line: Some parents 1) work for a living, 2) have other things to do that don’t involved taking the kids out for their third Grand Adventure of the day, and 3) don’t feel that their 13 year old needs to be hanging out on his/her own with a bunch of kids his/her own age at the movie theatre/mall/local hangout as constantly as said 13 year old feels he/she needs to.
It’s true that where there’s a will there’s a way; it’s called a LOCAL COMMUNITY TRANSPORTATION. Or, in layman’s terms, THE BUS. Gas is expensive, and escorting children to whatever they want to do takes time out of a day that is usually devoted to chores, food preparation, education, and earning a living–all of which fall under the category of ‘taking care of children’ far more than wasting gas to chauffer the kids does.
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February 24th, 2010 at 9:54 pm
Some parents are worn out from work, or they are just lazy.Some are poor and cannot afford to enroll their kids into sports and stuff.
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February 24th, 2010 at 10:13 pm
I don’t think your example was the best to show good parents vs. bad parents. After all, a parent not driving their child to the mall hardly means they are a bad parent. However, people put importance levels on different things. While some people think it’s important to have their kids in some sort of sporting activity, others think that sports isn’t important at all. Neither is wrong, it’s just a difference in opinion and it will show up in their parenting.
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